Two extremes of maturity: Between fawning and destructive interference

Observing the relationships between generations, I often saw the same drama: when parents have no foundation of their own, they inevitably fall into one of two extremes. Some begin to fawn over their children, afraid to say an extra word and playing someone else's roles — if only not to be lost, if only to receive even a drop of attention.

Others choose the opposite, even more dangerous path — they become overly active in the life of the young family. Knowing neither the true circumstances nor what is actually happening between two hearts, they intrude with their advice, judgments and orders.

Nígbà tí mo ń kọ́ ilé ìtumọ̀ ti Ayé Wúrà, mo fẹ́ fún àwọn àgbàlagbà ní àǹfààní láti tún ní ìmọ̀lára ìtìlẹ́yìn inú ara wọn, kí wọ́n sì mọ̀ pé wọ́n lè àti pé ó yẹ kí wọ́n gbé ìgbésí ayé wọn. Ibùdó ìtumọ̀ tí ó pa mọ́ ni èyí, níbi tí ènìyàn kò ní ní láti tẹ̀ ẹ̀yìn fún àfiyèsí mọ́, tàbí kí ó fi ìdánilójú ara rẹ̀ hàn nípa dídi wọ inú ìdílé àwọn ọmọ rẹ̀.