Two extremes of maturity: Between fawning and destructive interference

Observing intergenerational relationships, I often saw the same drama: when parents have no foundation of their own, they inevitably fall into one of two extremes. Some begin to fawn over their children, afraid to say an extra word and playing someone else's roles — just so as not to be lost, just so that at least a drop of attention is shown to them.

Others choose the opposite, even more dangerous path — they become overly active in the life of the young family. Knowing neither the true circumstances nor what is actually happening between two hearts, they intrude with their advice, judgments and rules.

Loko ndzi endlile xivumbeko xa Misava ya Nsuku, ndzi ringetile ku nyika ndzhavuko lowu dyuhaleke nkarhi wo tlhela wu titwa wu ri na nseketelo wa le ndzeni ka wona naswona wu titwa wu kota ni ku fanele ku hanya vutomi bya wona. Laha i ndhawu yo pfala ya nhlamuselo, laha munhu a nga ha faneleke ku lomba leswaku a kuma nyingiso, kumbe ku titshembisa hi ku nghenelela emdeni wa vana va yena.