Two extremes of maturity: Between fawning and destructive interference

Observing the relationships between generations, I often saw the same drama: when parents have no foundation of their own, they inevitably fall into one of two extremes. Some begin to fawn over their children, afraid to say an extra word and playing someone else's roles — just so as not to be lost, just so that even a drop of attention is shown to them.

Others choose the opposite, even more dangerous path — they become overly active in the life of the young family. Knowing neither the true circumstances nor what is really happening between two hearts, they intrude with their advice, judgments and orders.

ସୁବର୍ଣ୍ଣ ଜଗତର ସ୍ଥାପତ୍ୟ ନିର୍ମାଣ କରିବା ସମୟରେ, ମୁଁ ବୟସ୍କ ପିଢ଼ିକୁ ସେମାନଙ୍କ ନିଜ ଆନ୍ତରିକ ଆଧାରକୁ ପୁନର୍ବାର ଅନୁଭବ କରିବାର ସୁଯୋଗ ଦେବାକୁ ଚାହୁଁଥିଲି ଏବଂ ସେମାନେ ନିଜ ଜୀବନ ବଞ୍ଚାଇ ପାରିବେ ଓ ବଞ୍ଚାଇବା ଉଚିତ ବୋଲି ଅନୁଭବ କରିବାକୁ ଚାହୁଁଥିଲି। ଏହା ଅର୍ଥର ଏକ ବନ୍ଦ ପରିସର, ଯେଉଁଠାରେ ମନୁଷ୍ୟକୁ ଧ୍ୟାନ ପାଇଁ ଆଉ ମିନତି କରିବାକୁ ପଡ଼ିବ ନାହିଁ, କିମ୍ବା ନିଜ ସନ୍ତାନମାନଙ୍କ ପରିବାରରେ ହସ୍ତକ୍ଷେପ କରି ନିଜକୁ ପ୍ରତିଷ୍ଠିତ କରିବାକୁ ପଡ଼ିବ ନାହିଁ।