Two extremes of maturity: Between fawning and destructive interference

Observing the relationships between generations, I often saw the same drama: when parents have no foundation of their own, they inevitably fall into one of two extremes. Some begin to fawn before their children, afraid to say an extra word and playing someone else's roles — if only not to be lost, if only to be shown even a drop of attention.

Others choose the opposite, even more dangerous path — they become overly active in the life of the young family. Knowing neither the true circumstances nor what is actually happening between two hearts, they intrude with their advice, judgments and orders.

Popanga kamangidwe a Dziko la Golide, ndinali ndi cholinga chopatsa m'badwo wakale mwayi womvanso kukhazikika kwawo kwamkati ndi kumva kuti akhoza ndipo ayenera kukhala ndi moyo wawo. Awa ndi malo otsekedwa a tanthauzo, kumene munthu safunikiranso kuchita zonyengerera kuti apeze chidwi, kapena kudzitsimikizira mwa kulowerera m'banja la ana ake.