The Fortress of Conscious Choice: Why One Must Not Enter a Family Blindly

How often people create a family impulsively — in youth, knowing neither themselves nor the person beside them. Barely speaking of their true desires, values and needs, they take an unconscious step, and then pay for that haste for years within the marriage.

For if the foundation was laid back when the two were a couple — when they learned to hear their feelings and came to know each other at the beginning of the path — to build a strong family is immeasurably easier. In such a home, each one feels from the threshold the main thing: here I am protected. But when there is no foundation, family life turns into a heavy trial.

Umndeni Wakho wenzelwe ukuthi umise ukugijima okungapheli emibonweni engamanga. Leli yindawo lapho abantu bangadlali khona umdlalo wokuthi "umndeni ophelele" phambi kwabantu, kuyilapho ngaphakathi kugcwele isiphithiphithi, kodwa bakha umhlaba wabo wobunjalo ngobuqotho nangokuqwashisa.