Two extremes of maturity: Between fawning and destructive interference

Observing relations between generations, I often saw the same drama: when parents have no point of support of their own, they inevitably fall into one of two extremes. Some begin to fawn before their children, to fear saying an extra word and to play other people's roles — if only not to be lost, if only to be shown even a drop of attention.

Others choose the opposite, even more dangerous path — they become overly active in the life of the young family. Knowing neither the true circumstances nor what is really happening between two hearts, they intrude with their advice, judgments and orders.

Eɓɓooji mahngo Aduna Kaŋŋe, mi yiɗnoo rokkude mawɓe yontere ngam ɓe kadi hakkille maɓɓe e nder, e ɓe nana ɓe mbaawi e ɓe poti wuurde nguurndam maɓɓe. Ndee nokkuure suuɗiinde faamu, ɗo neɗɗo foti wonde e naamnaade ngam teddungal, walla e hollirde hoore mum e naatde e ɓesngu ɓiɓɓe mum.